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3 for 30

May 15, 2011

My friend, Stephanie, and I went to brunch yesterday for her 30th birthday.

I had three cups of coffee and decided that I wanted to interview her.

After all, 30 is a big year.

When I was young, I remember Oprah saying that “32 is the perfect age.” She discusses that you still have the energy of your youth — but you’re wise enough to know what you want.

I was probably 8 or something when I heard her say this, but I’ve remembered it ever since.

I took this picture of Stephanie at brunch with my iPhone. Coffee is the drink of the gods.

“I’m going to interview you,” I said. “Three questions for your 30th year.” I began writing in black Sharpie on the restaurant napkin.

“Oh, this is serious,” she noted, sipping her juice.

As she talked, I took notes on a piece of notebook paper torn from her day planner.

We had our own little Oprah moment.

L: What is the most important lesson you’ve learned in your 30 years?

S: It’s a lesson that I’m still working on, actually. But it’s this: we often spend so much time trying to make everybody else happy, that we sacrifice ourselves. I’m learning that I need to make myself happy — and that if I’m not content, I can’t be any good for anyone else anyway. So I’m learning to say no.

L: What will you do in the next 30 years?

S: I’ll make more of an effort to live in the moment — especially with my kids. I want to love my husband like we just met. And I want to focus on the meaningful relationships in my life. My time is so limited these days — I want to prioritize the relationships that are best for me and really put my energy toward those.

L: What word do you want to define your 30th year?

S: Gratitude. I recently had en epiphany: I was frustrated that I wasn’t getting enough sleep, that the kids kept waking up – and that I couldn’t catch up on my rest. And then I realized: A good night’s sleep isn’t the norm at this stage of life. I need to just relish in the times when I do get sleep and really enjoy them. I need to be grateful for those moments — but not expectant of them. Then I won’t be disappointed when they don’t happen.

L: As my Mom says: “Get your expectations in line with reality.”

S: Your Mom is wise.

Happy 30th year to Stephanie — and to all the others embarking upon a new decade of life.

One Comment leave one →
  1. Denyse Demel permalink
    May 16, 2011 9:20 am

    I love this interview. Steph is so AWESOME! Also, your blog makes me smile day after day!

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